what is Inferiority Complex and Self-Confidence and how to avoid it .

Inferiority Complex and Self-Confidence

The average person does not shy away from interacting with others because our lives depend on such interactions.

 Communicating with others and building healthy relationships is vital to our mental health and well-being. Naturally, when we meet people, we observe their mannerisms, body language, presentation and behavior. These observations influence our perception of man. If we like them, we will easily seek opportunities for their company.

 This may surprise the reader, but we form similar impressions and opinions about ourselves. This is called self-realization and self-esteem. We spend too much time in our own company with our thoughts. They have an indelible effect on our psyche, to the extent that mere thoughts can make us feel lonely in a crowd of thousands, or make us feel as if we are sitting in a crowd even though we are alone.

Thinking low of yourself leads to feelings of inferiority or low self-esteem. People affected by this are unhappy alone and in the company of others. People who have a positive view of themselves are considered to have self-esteem, and their thought process is the opposite of the former. A self-confident person is essentially cheerful, whether alone or with others.

 How does a feeling of inferiority take root in a person, and how does a person become self-confident? Can a person with low self-esteem ever gain self-esteem? Answering these questions is straightforward, as long as we understand this basic idea: Consider a baby taking its first steps. No matter how many times he falls or stumbles, he never gives up and eventually learns to walk. Falling does not end his resolve. This instills in him a newfound confidence, and allows him to take on more challenges in the future. This is what self-esteem consists of in its basic form.

Although this example is simple, the lesson it conveys has an admirable amount of depth. Incorporating this lesson into our lives can trigger huge positive changes. The challenge of walking for this child, we face new challenges every day. Every obstacle can be overcome and every desired goal can be achieved if we try like this child.

On the contrary, a person suffering from inferiority complex panics when faced with a challenge. He will focus on failure or the worst possible outcome, convincing himself that he is bound to fail, no matter what. He also blames these failures on others around him, gradually eroding relationships that could have helped him.

 Life is a field of trials which we have to face with determination and confidence. Problems may appear in our married life, career, health or relationship with children. This can be remedied only if a person rids himself of his sense of deprivation and solves these problems with self-confidence.

This is the only way to lead a productive life and become a productive member of society.

 Readers who feel this sense of deprivation, who feel far from what they want in life, might ask themselves after reading this article:

 What did we do wrong? Why are we always guilty? We have been treated unfairly since our childhood due to which we have reached this point today. If we were encouraged and supported, we would not have to face the criticism we do now. We would become self-confident, successful people.

 Their feelings are valid, and their objections are valid. The simplistic way in which we have discussed feelings of inferiority, self-esteem, and this natural feeling of deprivation does not reflect the true nature of these complex issues. Also, remember how destiny works and can override any plan we set in life. As much as we try to avoid them, we can suffer from diseases, whether mental or physical.

As Muslims, we must attribute all faults to ourselves. We must then actively seek ways to remedy our weaknesses and plan a path to success in whatever situation we find ourselves, breaking free from the shackles of past failures, which This can be done by listing all your past achievements. , even if a few.

 Consider where you made mistakes or suffered errors in judgment. Try to see what causes them and work hard to avoid suffering the same damage. Prepare for whatever challenges you may soon face and seek advice from experienced people around you. Learn new skills, pray for yourself, and ask others to do the same. If your desired goal is achieved, plan to involve yourself in a good work. However, an important point to remember is not to be deterred by criticism from others.

For readers gifted with self-esteem. Instead of praising yourself, you should attribute all your successes to Allah and consider them as the result of His mercy. Otherwise, you may be selfish, ungrateful, proud, or arrogant. A real increase in self-esteem will lead you to greater levels of humility.